Friday 18 April 2008 - Bored out of my mind

The other day a friend asked me what do I look for in a guy or partner, be it boyfriend or life partner. At the time I couldn't quite articulate what it is that I like. Later on, in a free moment, I thought about it and it finally hit me.

One, intelligence. By this I mean someone who's street smart, up to speed on things that are going on in the world and most importantly, cares about what is happening in the world. Well, of course one can't care about everything, but there has to be something that one cares about? =) He should at least know as much general knowledge as me or perhaps more in certain areas, and he must make time to read regularly, cause I find a man who reads extremely sexy. ;-)

Two, be sociable. I like someone who enjoys attending parties whether they are dinner, cocktails, clubs or bars, but he is not someone who Needs to go to a party all the time. To be able to hold his own in conversations (hence point #1) and basically be a gentleman, with adequate manners and behaviour for the venue and occasion.

Three, have a sense of humour. This doesn't mean I like someone who cracks jokes all the time, I actually hate that, not everything is a joke and not everything should be made fun of, every minute of the day. This just means the ability to be not too serious some of the time and to see the humour in certain things in life, so as to make life so much more enjoyable. =p

There. Sounds like a perfect gentleman yes? But then, it may be asking too much to tell god to give me someone that is everything I dream of so of course, in real life, there has to be a bit of give and a bit of take.

Like how sometimes, when you meet someone whose looks attracted you, nothing comes of it, either because its not mutual, or you discover that your personalities is not that good a match. Sometimes, when you're not looking at all, out pops a person that you realise slowly is close to what you have been looking for, but since the looks did not attract you at first, will things work out? Will you still go for it?

Are looks that important? Or is the personality more important?

Will you give and take?