Quarter Life Crisis

I went out for dinner with a friend the other day and she mentioned that she is going through a sort of onset of quarter life crisis. Mainly due to the fact that she feels she no longer has as much attention from guys as she used to and she's beginning to be afraid.

I myself am at quarter life, heck, I think it wouldn't be long before middle age comes looming up ahead of me. This being how fast time usually flies. I have to confess that I myself, for the first time in my life, actually am afraid of growing old alone now. The thought of not finding someone to spend the rest of my life with is actually grating on my mind more often now than ever before.

As SJP (as Carrie) once mentioned on the show SATC, will we all someday settle for second best because there just seems to be absolutely no hope in finding the best anymore? We become too old to hope and just give up hoping and searching.

Will second best actually be better than the best or is the best really better? The thing is, when you've settled for second best, you will never find out.

But why is it that in this day and age, we still fear being single into our 30s? At least most girls do have some sort of fear of this. Most guys actually do enjoy being single well into their early 30s, flitting around from girlfriend to girlfriend whether long or short term.

I know I do fear being single at 30 and I do try not to fear it because I am by nature a rather independent person and I confess that thus far, I haven't actually met anyone who could make me willingly compromise my absolute freedom for some domestic comfort. (well if I did, I'd well be attached by now ;-)

Being in a QLC also involves the fear of not making enough moolah, whether in comparison to friends, relatives or the general population. But perhaps, the worst of them all is the fear and realisation that one is not making enough in comparison to one's hopes/dreams and aspirations.

But then at the age where most have given up on their dreams and get stuck in the rut of their current job/occupation/career whether they like it or not, some say that, if you still have a dream of achieving something at this age, and is actually actively pursuing it. Well, you aren't doing that bad after all.